WHY THE ENVY, THE HATRED, THE JEALOUSY?

WHY THE ENVY, THE HATRED, THE JEALOUSY?

If you pull me down, what do you gain?

If you watch me cry, will your life get longer?

If you hurt me, will your soul finally be at peace?

You already know the answer.

It’s no. It will always be no.

So why do so many people thrive on the sight of another person’s pain? Why do they smile at failure that isn’t theirs? Why do they cheer silently or openly when someone else stumbles?

And here’s the strangest part: they would never wish that same pain on themselves.

The Truth Nobody Likes to Admit

Envy, hatred, jealousy these are not rare diseases. They are natural impulses. Every human carries them.

Yes, even you.

But here’s the difference between those who destroy and those who build: having the impulse is human, feeding it is a choice.

We all stand at the same crossroads:

To build someone up or tear them down.

To celebrate someone’s joy or to poison it with comparison.

To confront our insecurities or to bury them under someone else’s hurt.

Evil rarely arrives looking like evil.

It slips in quietly, disguised as “just being honest,” “telling it like it is,” or “giving them what they deserve.” And if we’re not careful, it starts shaping who we become.

Evil Is Always a Choice

Nobody is born cruel.

We are born with capacity for compassion, for selfishness, for both. Which side wins depends entirely on which one we feed.

Some people stare their demons in the eye and say, “You will not run my life.”

Others avoid the mirror, mask their true selves, and hide behind religion, morality speeches, or social respectability. Outwardly, they look “good.” Inwardly, they feed the same darkness they condemn in others.

You can fool people for a while. You can even fool yourself. But you can’t fool the truth you carry the harvest of your choices in your soul, and it always shows.

Why People Do It Anyway

Cruelty often comes dressed in these disguises:

Insecurity: “If I make you smaller, maybe I’ll feel bigger.”

Scarcity thinking: “If you win, it means I lose.”

Projection: “I see in you what I hate about myself, so I attack it.”

Hunger for control: “Hurting you is the only time I feel powerful.”

But the satisfaction they’re chasing? It never lasts. Hurting someone else is like drinking salt water you think it will quench your thirst, but it only leaves you more empty.

Choosing Light Is the Harder Road

Kindness is not weakness.

Kindness is mastery. It is the deliberate choice to use your strength for protection, not destruction.

In a world that rewards cruelty with attention, kindness is rebellion. And it takes discipline:

Grounding: Daily habits that anchor you when emotions run high.

Self-awareness: Admitting when jealousy or resentment is rising, and refusing to feed it.

Long vision: Valuing peace of mind over the cheap thrill of revenge.

When You’re the Target

If you’re on the receiving end of envy or hatred, remember: their choice says everything about them, and nothing about your worth.

Guard your energy. You do not owe access to someone committed to misunderstanding you.

Don’t feed the fire. Cruelty wants your reaction don’t give it the satisfaction.

Live well anyway. Nothing disrupts darkness like someone who keeps shining.

Refuse to become them. The real tragedy is not being hurt it’s letting the hurt make you cruel too.

The Mirror Principle

Life has a way of returning whatever you put into it. Sow bitterness, and you will taste it. Sow compassion, and you will live in the harvest of peace.

We all have the potential for harm. The question is: will you be the one who conquers the darkness inside, or the one who hides it while pretending it isn’t there?

Your answer isn’t written in your words.

It’s written in how you treat people when there’s nothing to gain and no one to applaud you for it.

The Challenge

Next time you feel envy rise, or hatred whisper in your ear, pause. Ask yourself:

Why does this bother me?

What fear or wound is it revealing in me?

Will acting on this feed my peace or my destruction?

Growth is not comfortable. Facing your demons will cost you pride, convenience, and the luxury of blaming others for everything wrong in your life. But it will give you something greater freedom.

Because here’s the truth:

No matter how much you hide, your soul keeps the score.

And in the end, light or darkness it’s always a choice.

Choose wisely.

With love,

Kassy Gold

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